A couple of days ago I heard the debut of Kandi's new song called LEAVE YOU. (Good song by the way) Basically, in the song she sings about leaving her current man for another who will treat her like he used to treat her when they first met. It made me think hmmm, it does seem like some men are just date for the thrill of the chase. They find a woman who seems unattainable, converse with her to see where her head is at, and then map out a strategy to pursue her. Now during this pursuit they will spend money, esp. If they have it to their disposal, they will open doors for her, listen to her problems, text her good morning everyday, shower her with compliments until she begins to think "beautiful" or "so amazing" are her first names, and make her feel special. During this pursuit the man will have managed to momentarily convince himself that she is all that he desires, because the thrill of it all gets his adrenaline going.
Then it happens they win your heart only for the romanticism to come to a mere "you look aight" and your calls start to go unanswered. The thrill is gone and his desire has simmered down. You now have the title of his "main" chic, if and only if you haven't been demoted to casual confidant. So ladies what do we do when we find ourselves vunerable and ready but now our love life seems lack luster? When the shakespeare we first met no longer writes sonnets in our honor? Do we leave him like kandi would or do we stay and hope the fire re-kindles? What do we do when the water runs dry?
Food for thought.. I'll have an answer in my next post.
***disclaimer: not ALL men do this but a nice majority.
-beanz
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