Kick Rocks

I guess I am unaware of the effects I have on the men I meet due to my actions or lack there of.

SCENARIO: I meet this guy we exchange numbers I initiated it because he seems like a cool guy. we had a few conversations then one day he insisted on seeing me before he left to go out of town and so I met up with him. We talked for a little while and then I kissed him on the lips before we parted (SN: I didn't want to kiss him but felt that was the only way to get him out my face) After we parted we didn't really have too many phone conversation there after and that is where the drama begins.

HIS SIDE: So according to him when I sent him a BBM today he was upset with me because it took me 4 months to finally make the initiative to contact him and was upset that I never called him back (I don;t remember saying that I would call him back but, OK). He was also upset because we had kissed and he doesn't kiss his female friends and hopes I don't kiss my guy friends either... With that being said he admitted that I had crushed his ego... He accused me of being gay (I suppose because I wasn't interested in pursuing anything with him) then told me to kick rocks (I told him to do the same)... then proceeded to deleted me off his BBM.

MY SIDE: In my defense I had no idea I crushed his ego. In fact I did not even realize he cared so much nor that it was that "big" of a deal... I do feel bad and I did apologize because I know how it feels to be led on only to find out things weren't as they had seemed BUT I don't see HOW I lead him on. We never discussed a relationship or anything of that nature just basic conversation getting to know one another and we were never intimate other than that one kiss... But everyone is different and some are more sensitive than others as I am realizing...

MY LESSON: I want men to be honest with me and not tell me what I want to hear or to be led on. So I suppose I need to be a bit more careful and up front and honest about how I feel about someone and tell them my intentions/what I want out the situation as I would want a guy to do to me. so what goes around comes around and now I see how my "innocent" actions have had a MAJOR effect on someone else. So do unto others as you would have others do unto you... Now if you'd excuse me I have some rocks to go kick :-)

-Mcgee