The Girl With Four Boyfriends

Once upon a time there was a girl who had four boyfriends.
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>She loved the fourth boyfriend the most and adorned him with rich robes and treated him to the finest of delicacies. She gave him nothing but the best.
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>She also loved the third boyfriend very much and was always showing him off to neighboring kingdoms. However, she feared that one day he would leave her for another.
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>She also loved her second boyfriend. He was her confidant and was always kind, considerate and patient with her. Whenever this girl faced a problem, she could confide in him, and he would help her get through the difficult times.
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>The girl's first boyfriend was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining her wealth and kingdom. However, she did not love the first boyfriend Although he loved her deeply, she hardly took notice of him!
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>One day, the girl fell ill and she knew her time was short. She thought of her luxurious life and wondered, 'I now have four boyfriends with me, but when I die, will I be all alone?'
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>Thus, she asked the fourth boyfriend, 'I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?
>'No way!', replied the fourth boyfriend, and he walked away without another word.
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>His answer cut like a sharp knife right into her heart.
>The sad girl then asked the third boyfriend, 'I loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?' 'No!', replied the third boyfriend. 'Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to marry someone else!' Her heart sank and turned cold
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>She then asked the second boyfriend, 'I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?'
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>'I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!', replied the second boyfriend. 'At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave.'
>His answer struck her like a bolt of lightning, and the girl was devastated.
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>Then a voice called out: 'I'll go with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go.' The girl looked up, and there was her first boyfriend. He was very skinny as he suffered from malnutrition and neglect.
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>Greatly grieved, the girl said, 'I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!'
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>In truth, you have four boyfriends in your lives:
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>Your fourth boyfriend is your body. No matter how much time and effort you lavish in making it look good, it will leave you when you die.
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>Your third boyfriend is your possessions, status and wealth.When you die, it will allgo to others.
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>Your second boyfriend is your family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for you, the furthest they can stay by you is up to the grave.
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>And your first boyfriend is your spirit. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world.
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>However, your spirit is the only thing that will follow you where ever you go. Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of you that will follow you to the throne of God and continue with you throughout Eternity.
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>Thought for the day: Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees, you're in the perfect position to pray.
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-McGee

Top 10 un-dateable professions

It never fails, you're at a lounge, and the man who is checking you out the most, just isn't your cup of tea, physically. However, he finds a way to stir up a quick convo, you discover that he's a doctor, and you quickly decide that, although he looks more like Lil' Wayne than Idris Elba, maybe a date or two won't hurt.

Funny enough, according to study done by the recruitment agency HireScores.com, both men and women alike are at times won over by an individuals profession for a variety of different reasons. Some of the professions we distinguish as the sexy or most arousing professions do not translate as being the most desirable professions for a significant other to have. A person's career indirectly speaks volumes of their personality, making them more or less attractive. This is the case for 1 out of 3 men, who say they would date a woman who was a doctor because they believe chances of them being properly cared for are greater. Other times, a person's profession may indicate what's in their bank accounts, which is the case for the 87 percent of women who say they would rather date doctors and lawyers whose jobs provide money, power and authority.

Ultimately, a career does have on impact on our choices on who we choose and don't choose to date. Whether those reasons are shallow or justified, I countdown the top 10 professionals one would be wise to steer clear of.

10. Air Hosts/Hostesses
Air hosts, a.k.a flight attendants, b.k.a international players: Traveling the world gives you a lot of room to hide your dirty laundry and a lot time to do it.

9. Police Officers
Police officers are ordered to serve and protect, which, loosely translated for those that choose to date them, means long work hours and lots of danger. If you lack understanding, patience or faith, you can never date a cop.

8. Personal Trainers
All day, your super-fit girlfriend/boyfriend is being admired by men and women. Trainers are motivators/teachers, and remember back in the day when you fell in love with your teacher? Now imagine that teacher pushing your leg back for stretches while you're hot and sweaty. Sounds like a bad porno already.

7. Writers/Bloggers
Your whole relationship can be an ongoing interview, and every incident is a potential story idea. A writer's life is made up of constant deadlines, which may interfere with the amount of attention he or she is able to give you.

6. Models
We're not talking about the kind who book church fashion shows... they're safe. However, if you are dating a person who makes the runway and photo shoots their career, you have to be insanely secure and confident. Anything less will make you miss out on the bliss of dating a model in the first place.

5. Bartenders
Bartenders make money off their looks, and they love attention. Mixologists have mastered the game of flirting and teasing, conditioning them to be very insincere with their feelings even when they don't intend to be.

4. Psychiatrist/Psychologists/Counselors
It's like dating a writer, but 100 times worse. You are analyzed, studied, examined and evaluated by someone who has been taught the human psyche. In the middle of argument, you can never say, "You don't know what you're talking about!"

3. Professional Athletes
Three words: Away Games. Groupies.

2. Strippers
Just because T-Pain fell in love with his local pole dancer and made a song about it, doesn't mean you have to. Dating either a male or female stripper means breaking through and ignoring all the stereotypes associated with it. You must be able to handle your partner being adored for his/her sexuality, and them loving money maybe more than they love you.

1. Unemployed
This doesn't refer to those who have been laid off in rough economic times, but those who make unemployment a full-time job, figuring out how they can go through life without ever having to find work. Without much to occupy their time, they will become an annoyance when all their focus is put on you, but the lack of individual ambition is also a telltale sign of someone who won't be participating in the growth of the relationship.

In These Songs

This song is so relevant to me at this present moment:

I don’t mind making you happy
I don’t mind making your day
Feels so good to give
But I never, never seem to get my way
I’m tired of waking up with nobody laying next to me
I’m tired of being alone and everybody else is lovey dovey
I’m so tired of all ya’ll being happy but me

-In My Songs (Gerald Levert)

* I am trying to unblock my blessings so that maybe I can receive what it is I have
always longed for

-Mcgee

Baby Steps

The more I continue to pray about my situation the more I am starting to grasp *sigh* that either I have to wait or it isn't for me to have... My heart hurts and some days are good and other days are hard as I come to the realization that I should move on or at least date other people... its really hard but I want to be happy and he's not necessarily doing it... I get sad or sometimes angry when I look at my phone only to see the person that bbm'd me, text me, or even called me wasn't him... sad I know but im a ready and willing participant to go out and try to meet other people to get my mind off him and possibly move on completely... I guess only time will tell... baby steps, gotta crawl before you can walk :-)

PS. I went on my first date since January last night! A HUGE step for me, HUGE!

-Mcgee

Finding NEMO

It's been a long time since I have posted a blog but during my hiatus I have been exploring the exact thing we women obsess over.. the L word (not lesbianism) but LOVE. Love is simply in expressible through words. I hear it all the time, people say it all the time, people base movies on it and books alike, but I feel like it is every rarely ever truly exposed in its simplest form.

Love is NOT supposed to HURT
NOR does it LIE
Love doesn't Retaliate
NOR does it stress the small things.
Love is not an emotion, because emotions change.


I think we often make the mistake of assuming how love is supposed to feel and confuse it with lust, conformity, and vengeance, although it seems far fetched it's true.



Well then... What is it? I am by no means the ideal candidate to define this but I've experienced enough to understand it.

LOVE is a mentality that is subject to the emotional attachments of happiness, sensibility, compassion, sympathy and consideration but is something that is developed over time as it reaches its maturity it becomes fixed.

Considering that LOVE develops in the mind and not the heart, I Believe we women should LOVE with our mind and CARE with our hearts.

We must learn to not let moments in time dictate how much we love a person but think candidly about the CHARACTER in which we are subjecting ourselves to have a mental connection with.

The more you know, the more you understand = The more you know a person's true character, the more you understand why you love them.

Well that's all i have for now..sort of a rambling...but a true one indeed... more to come..

-Beanz

Playmate vs Soulmate

In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don’t settle for a Playmate when God has a Soul mate waiting for us. Sometimes this is a hard distinction to make. Playmates are tricky. They are so much fun to be with that even the smartest of us will be fooled into thinking this has to be our Soul mate. Worse yet too many of us attempt to make a Soulmate out of a Playmate.
The danger of this is that later, after years of playing, we will meet our Soul mate, but it may be too late. We may have already made a Life mate of our Playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional, children, etc.).Alternatively, we may have been hurt from playing so hard that we are in no shape ourselves to be anyone’s anything. How can we distinguish between the One, and just another one?

First, we must be open with ourselves about who we really are and what our soul yearns for. Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind. Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In order to find your Soul mate you have to know you, first. You must be willing to listen to that inner voice.

Moreover, is that voice telling you that the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could be him? What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra mile for you when no one else will. Oh no! He’s too short or too tall, balding or too hairy, and on and on? Just too ordinary looking for me! Then there’s that girl who makes you feel so special when you’re around her, but she doesn’t match that ideal you have conjured in your head.

She’s too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just couldn’t be for me! Therefore, what if he or she doesn’t look like Shemar Moore or Vivica Fox. Is he or she going to treat you like the jewel that you are?

Not only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you never imagined possible! In order to heed that voice, we have to put on the back burner our own superficial thinking. Could it be that your inner desire is for a truly genuine person with a good heart?

If you enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of Playmates out there to occupy your time. Nevertheless, don’t spend too much time playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses it appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful connection. Your soul begins to crave your Soulmate.

Never make someone a priority when all you are to him or her is an option…

-McGee