The situation

So I'm watching this show on MTV called

Jersey Shore

...I must admit I have to add it to my reality show guilty pleasures... now on this particular episodes on of the girls Sammi.started off dating this one guy named Mike in the house..he calls himself the situation...later in the episode she finds herself feeling another housemate Ronnie more...and while all the housemates decide to go to the club...sammie decides go after the other housemate ronnie...right in front of mike...heartbroken mike confronts her in a rage...she brushes him off and said she liked ronnie more and went after what she wanted..(granted of course this show is edited so there could've been some inbetween situation that occured) anyways mike is left looking like a fool and highly upset that sammie choose another guy over him when he thought he had her in the bag. The reason why this struck me as an interesting episode is because this is the first time that I've witnessed a woman having total control over her situation. She liked mike at first and had her way with him...(bc they were into each other at first) and then when she saw someone else that she truely wanted she wasn't afraid to let go and get it.

I feel as though sometimes we women let fear constrict our hearts to often. Even while we are dating a guy. Bear in mind we may not dislike him but at the same time he may not be exactly what we want. ( I may speak for myself on this issue) but I feel as though we have a hard time letting a man go. We have the fear that omg if I let him go another man may not come around or we think no one else will treat us as well. Now I'm not saying let go of a good man who treats you extremely well...but I'm saying if you do an inventory check on the man you're with and he doesn't add up to what you expect and there's a better option...my thoughts lean towards that fear we have to keep that not so good guy there just because he is semi good.

Take for instance for ladies who are in bad relationships where the guy has done just enough to make you feel bad for brining up his faults...those ladies fall into this spiral of denial and then assume the problem is them and if they let this guy go then that's it...they won't find anyone else.

Or take another instance for the lady who has invested so muvh time in building up her man that she feels as though all will be lost if she leaves him...and even if she does she finds herself dipping back to him for that security comfort..

This has got to stop...ladies like I always say don't be afraid to be alone...build on yourself...after all the guy is supposed to come to us..."you know seek us out"..and once you have a nice handful of men seeking you out if you have taken the time to get you together you will have your inventory list together and be able to pick the right one for you..
That's all I got on this one...

I guess I have to keep on watching the show to see how ronnie and sammies realtionship turns out..

Beanz