Lost Without You

Ive been trying to justify why I continue to date all the wrong men or date men with the same characteristics... Just want a sexual relationship. Ive had 1 really good boyfriend who treated me like a queen and its been down hill since then. I asked a guy friend and he said it isn't me but the men I choose to date. Which leads me to believe that Im attracted to the men who won't treat me like I should and need to be treated. Im wondering if it has anything to do with the lack of a father figure in my life... I never met my dad, My Uncle whom I was close to did some real unacceptable things to me, and my Grandfather whom I lived with. Does this have anything to do with why I choose to date the men I date? Ive not had the best relationships with the men closests to me... How do I change this because I want to. Does it begin with self love? I just feel as though growing with such negativity in regards to my family and the lack of a true father figure has contributed to my problem... I think that if I can find the problem then I can find a solution or does the root of the problem matter? What do you guys think? My friends give me advice and tell me what I should do and I respect them and listen to their advice, but I also need to figure some things out on my own. I give good advice and sometimes I should take my own advice and listen to my intuitions... I need to work on that

-McGee