Black Marriage Negotiations (Woman's Perspective)

NBA Tigertext Message

I was at work one day when I was approached by an NBA player’s agent. He introduced us and we began talking and have ever since. We’ve made plans to meet up on a couple of occasions and it just so happens that weeks before we were suppose to meet he was involved in the Floyd Mayweather scandal… Apparently his text messages were the ones that lead to the incident concerning the mother of Mayweathers Child. Needless to say we did not end up getting together. When I did speak to him he explained the situation so on and so forth and everything was cool so fast forward to last night, I got a text from him which read:
“I use TigerText for texting so I can send self-deleting messages! Get the app too so we can text each other”.
I couldn’t do anything but just laugh and I did all the way home. If we have to resolve to using TigerText then that clearly means we don’t need to be talking. He’s obviously talking to people when he probably shouldn’t be. I’m sure he’s just trying to cover his ass to avoid another scandal and ill leave it at that…

-McGee

My Final Goodbye

People come into your life for a reason season or lifetime. At some point you realize who matters, who never did, who won’t anymore, and who always will. Everyone has a lesson to teach. Be thankful no matter which lesson plan they were sent to deliver, It’s all for you. So to you I say this:

All good things must come to an end. Thank you for the lessons that you have taught me for you have taught me many things. I will reminisce on the good times as well as the bad times that we once shared. I hope life treats you kind and that God molds you into the man that he wants you to be, I want nothing but the best for you and I hope you have all that you’ve dreamed of. You’ve played a major part in my life and I wish you, joy and happiness. But above all this, I wish you nothing but love. Stay true to yourself and be blessed and know that in my heart you will always be.

Hell Date

I went on a date last night I think it's my fourth date this year :-) and as the night progressed I was reminded more and more of why I hate going on dates... I was completely uninterested in what he had to say, well he wasn't saying much of anything actually. I can't tell you too much about him... but He carried on about his job and the great discounts he receives as a Marriott employee and even talked about the credit card limit... He talked to me about Jersey and mind you when we first met we established that that's where I was from and then in the mist of the conversation says "your from Jersey" and i just gave him this look and was like yes i told you that already only for him to say oh yeah that's one of the things I liked about you o_O He talked about dancing salsa and i told him I enjoyed classical dance (ballet, tap, & Jazz) he didn't have a clue what jazz dance was as he refereed it to something he listened to when he was cooking lol. Then he talked about his first impression with me and how pretty I am and how much he likes my short hair and how I came off to him and even called me boogie *pause* for the record I am NOT boogie and when I asked why he called me boogie he said because I don't like to go to clubs but then later said he liked that about me... I'm a bit confused. I really don't like when people try to change me... I'm not a movie buff and he is and he told me that I'm going to MAKE you like movies... in the back of my mind I'm thinking no the hell your not. He was trying to get me to drink and was disappointed when I told him no... we discussed this on several occasions I DO NOT drink! Not even a glass of wine... NO... shit leave me alone. He carried on more about his job and his hotel discounts and that he wants to take me to Hilton Head... and in my head I'm thinking that means I have to be with you sleep in the same room if not the same bed with you... ummmm I'm straight on that dude doesn't even know me! He asked me ho I felt about him and I told him that's he's a nice guy and that right now I'm just getting out of a situation and he immediately got defensive and was like I'm not tryin to pressure you into a relationship before I could EVEN finish what I was saying. Then says that we can just be cool and hang out and then maybe be friends with benefits or we could play to by ear and see where it goes or if it turns into a relationship... in the the back of my mind all I could think of was how to get away from him. We were waiting on more food he ordered and it felt like it took them an hour to get it too us. The quicker they gave us our food the quicker I could get the hell out of there and be on my way. Food came and we left FINALLY. As he was walking me to my car he grabbed my hand... I cringed im NOT a touchy feely person when I first meet someone that was a bit much for me I wasn't ready for that. But what makes it worse is once again we established I do NOT like cigarettes and what does he do takes one out and smokes it. I fan the smoke away from my face and he puts it out... Im thinking why would you do that Im allergic to smoke you dumb-ass... I've never been more excited to get to my car... I don't want to go on dates anymore. It wasn't THAT bad of a date but I can honestly say I won't be going out with him again... What sucks is that he is a good handsome guy but Im just not that into him :-( NEXT!!!!

-Mcgee

Men Lie, Women Lie, but the truth don't lie.

How does it feel when you've invested your heart into something you thought would have potential, reveals its ugly truth?

He would kiss you and his lips would say I want a future with you. He would hug you and his arms would feel like he would never let go. When you laid down with him, that night would transcend into the morning when your body felt like it was only for him. Then it hits you when you're making 90% of the calls and texts go unanswered for days, with the excuse, "oh I've been busy" is your only resolve. Yet, you press on because he reminds you that one day soon he will take you to the top with him, but these are just words... The time you spend becomes routine... an indentation in his to do list....

Who's that girl, falls from your lips...just a homegirl, ain't nobody, ain't shit...flashes you a smile and caresses your hips, sex and a movie checked off his list. You keep giving and giving going above and beyond for his birthday you get him more than a card...you remember the little things he likes, that you love, and all you get in return is a thankyou and a thats's what's up.

He always told you actions spoke louder than words...days went by when his actions went unheard. Not even a simple act of kindness he barely bothered to show...as long as he gave the bare minimum of loyalty he had done enough. You grew tired and weary but keep hope on a tight leash...thinking one day the bitch would bark right up your tree, so that the love you had given and invested your time in, would return with a man that now chose to be more than friends.

Almost a year has gone by and you've settled for this basic love, ignoring the truth and praying for more. Your prayer is answered when a woman on the same quest, sends you a message asking "well how do YOU know him", your heart pounds as you begin to realize the truth, because to her you were homegirl, the nobody, the ain't shit truth.

These are the type of memories our minds have to keep, the type of pains that quicken our heart beat, the type of stories we later confess, when another man wonders why you seem to love him less. Love is a risky investment to make but at the end of the day its the only worthy risk we have to take.

-as told to beanz

cry baby

I just watched Love and Basketball and seeing it for the umpth-teenth time still evoked the same emotions as it did when I saw it the first time. In the end when they embrace, after the game becomes a double or nothing, I cry. I don't boo who like I did when I first saw it but I let a tear or two roll down my face. The scene reminds me of the first time I felt like I was in love... I was young so that's why I consider it a thought and not the reality (I just tell myself that but I was in love). We were young and everything was so raw and so real and then he hurt me. I choked when I asked him, Why? I cried even harder when he didn't have a logical answer. It was then I decided I didn't want to give my heart ever again, no man was deserving of it. I was young and I had experienced my first love and loss but I realized it was the greatest thrill of my life and even though I tried to convince myself I wouldn't give my heart out again, I couldn't help but to secretly hope I would feel that rush again. Everytime I watch that scene I go through the emotions of what it feels like to have loved and loss and then love again. At this point I've been rebuilding my heart so that its strong enough to love again even if there's pain involved.

-beanz